Sad :(

Lately, there has been an awful lot of drama in my life, and it's taken an emotional toll on me. I have always been a very introverted, quiet person, and I mostly stay to myself. A few months ago, someone started working with me at our church (I only work 1 night a week), and with her she brought a lot of drama. I thought she was super nice and I enjoyed working with her. Then, slowly, I started noticing that she was becoming closely intertwined into the lives of my coworkers at church. People there were having personal issues, as people do, and it just seemed as though she was very wrapped up into everyone else's lives. She appeared to be trying to help them in their different situations, yet she shared a lot of personal information about these people with me (and who knows who else). I kept quiet about it for a long time. Then, about a month ago, she let something very personal slip out about a coworker's child. This particular coworker was gesturing a finger gun to her head that night and was visibly upset. I approached said coworker after work hours to see if she was ok. We have been friends for 4 years now, after all. In doing so, I created a bit of a mess, because the coworker got upset with the person who told the "secret". I didn't realize it was a "secret" because she shared it with me and two other people who were in the room at that time. I honestly thought it was common knowledge at that point. Apparently the coworker got mad at the blabber, and told her off. I received a message from the one who blabbed, saying she thought she could trust me and talk to me safely. I apologized about 3x (via text message through a game we were playing), but she deleted me from the game and then from Facebook. That hurt me. I became angry and stayed upset for about 2 days. I talked with my coworker (the one whose son was talked about) and she said she was ok and to let the whole thing go. So I tried. 
Then I started thinking.... a lot... about all the things this person had shared with me about the coworker, and it upset me because I had been in the middle of this awkward situation for months and months. The person had been acting like the coworker's friend but blabbing all kinds of confidential information about the coworker's life to us. I became angry, and with some pushing from the coworker, I did reveal some of the things that the woman said about her. MY BAD. Well, since then, the coworker and I have been friends, and the person has not been back in the nursery working with us anymore. However, they've remained friends as well, and I'm cool with that. 

FRIDAY night, I took said coworker to a women's retreat held by my church. I sat next to another friend there who immediately got up in my face about the whole situation. I am guessing the Blabber must have told her this information. I was so upset, because all of this had happened over a month ago, and I'd really tried to let it go. I just wanted to go to this retreat and have a good time, and I brought said coworker there to have a nice time and thought it might influence her in a positive way. The in-my-face-friend basically accused me of being the problem, and said that as a Christian I should have confronted the Blabber and made peace with her. I explained that I tried to do that at first by apologizing 3 times, even though I did nothing wrong...This friend told me that Blabber had been talking about me and this friend remained up in my face, and made me feel really uncomfortable. no matter how much I tried to back away. What I really wanted to say is, it's none of your business, and get out of my face. Sidenote- the in my face friend happens to be a HUGE gossip, and no one really likes her for that reason. I just tend to root for the underdog and embrace the ppl no one else likes. l.ol. Maybe I need to stop doing that. I told her it had been dealt with and to let it go.

Today, I got a call from the staff at church wanting to bring me into a meeting with the Blabber and her husband (who I've never met before in my life; whats' that about?) I told her I would meet with the Blabber but that I didn't feel it was necessary to meet with her husband because he was not involved in any way; that would be like me bringing MY husband into this. I really feel this woman thrives on drama, and wants to involve as many people as possible. Apparently the Blabber now says that I have breached confidentiality within the church because my coworker was her family's "outreach project" (apparently so are all the other coworkers) and she is upset that I went back and told her all the nasty things she said about her. So why did she act like a friend to this girl's face, then talk smack about her behind her back & tell us all that she was being intimidated by her? I'm very confused.

So, my husband came home, and I told him the latest... that I have a lynching scheduled tomorrow with our 2 childrens church staff and with Blabber and her husband. He said, "I wouldn't do it", which is the same thing my friend Susan said to me. I contacted the staff member who called me, and I said, "My husband doesn't want me to do this", and she said, "That's fine, we can cancel the meeting if you want, but I encourage you to resolve this now". I am really unsure what to do. I can't deny that I did get angry and shared with my coworker what the Blabber said, but that was after Blabber didn't accept my apology and deleted me from facebook. I don't know why I was so hurt by that, but I was! So, I need to let her know what I'm going to do by tonight... Should I meet with them and say my peace? I'll admit that I made a mistake by getting angry and sharing the other things that Blabber said, but that I didn't realize my coworker (aka my friend) was her personal "outreach project". I never got the whole picture on that. I just thought she was a new lady stirring up some drama. 

I'm sure that was really hard to follow! Characters for this story are 1. Blabber-new lady that started working with us about 6 months ago, 2. Coworker- a girl I've worked with for 4 years now and never had a problem with until Blabber came into the picture, and 3. In-my-face-friend- I've been friends w/ her for several years now but she's got a reputation for being a gossip and no one likes her. She has ticked me off in the past, I confronted her about it, and we made up and moved on. She has "no couth" as people say.
As a Christian, I feel as though I did the right thing in the beginning by apologizing. But I know I didn't do the right thing acting out of anger and discussing the other things that were shared. I have different positions on this. First, the coworker is my friend, and I usually do tell my friends when ppl are saying unkind things about them. Second, I'm a counselor for a living- Coworker came to me for help and advice, and much of the info shared came out in a conversation between us in which she assured me she wouldn't blab to blabber. But she got angry and cussed Blabber out. Third, Blabber has never shared with me what her relationship was with my coworker. Had someone filled me in that she was trying to do an outreach, I might've better understood. I was never let in on what was going on. I thought she was being a friend to her face, but talking about her behind her back.

I am so unsure as to what to do and I've been praying about it. God knows my heart, and that I would not hurt anyone purposely. Any suggestions are welcome.